Law Of Attraction (Not Working)

By Urja Vaswani

Lessons from Experience, When the Law of Attraction Falls Short

You saw the movie, read articles, watched videos and tried different methods to manifest your dreams—and nothing works.

Sometimes in life, after trauma or toxic relationships, it’s not easy to think positive, stay focused, or forget the past. And honestly? You might hate the word Hope.

I'm not going to tell you how it works, or the "right method". Because I don’t have those answers. But I will share what I felt when I tried to use the law of attraction.

1. Healing (why?)

If you’ve heard about the Law of Attraction, you’ve probably heard about healing too. It’s not easy—I’m still trying. But here’s what I’ve learned:

• Feel your emotions
Pretending to be positive all the time is not healthy. You need to feel emotions without guilt.

• Cherish the memories
Let yourself remember the good without staying stuck in the past. Even when it’s painful, there’s beauty in acknowledging happiness that once existed.

• Cry
Let it out. You don’t need to cry every day, but when you're overwhelmed—allow it.

• Move on
After feeling, remembering, and releasing, move forward. Don’t hold on to emotions or people forever.

This isn’t a healing method—it’s just what helped me stop feeling guilty for not “staying positive.”

2. Love Yourself (ok?)

Self-love isn’t chanting affirmations or taking bubble baths every weekend.

To me, self-love means:

• Knowing your worth, not obsessing over yourself
• Setting boundaries, not being selfish
• Accepting truth and mistakes, not hiding from them
• Choosing to become better for yourself

So next time someone throws “self-love” around—smile and define it for yourself.

3. Life Purpose (panic)

They say “there’s no age limit” to finding your purpose. But my parents say otherwise (lol).

It’s hard to find purpose when you feel stuck, when nothing is working, and when everyone else looks like they’ve figured it out.

I don’t have the answer. But I know this: sometimes you already know what your soul wants—you just stop listening.

4. Still Manifesting

I’m still manifesting. Still struggling. Still hoping.

I’m writing this so you stop being harsh on yourself. Happiness isn’t something that arrives *after* you get everything you want. It starts now.

If you think happiness is only traveling, shopping, or eating aesthetic food, maybe you’ve given it the wrong definition.

Change the definition. Let your life be gentle and real. Let it be quiet and still meaningful. Let it be yours.

And remember: positivity isn’t “love and light” all the time. It’s just faith.